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Angela Sealana's avatar

I appreciate how your posts are satisfying while remaining inconclusive in a way. That's the point, isn't it? Finding satisfaction in life isn't just about inputting the most optimal factors, but about journeying toward organic realities like love and healing and growth. Thank you. 😊

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Paul Hossfield's avatar

Firstly, thank you for quoting me. I'm the "small space of happiness" guy. You utterly made my, uhm, night? morning? What is 3:35am when you can't sleep?

Oh fuck. Chalk it up to age. I'm 73. Friendships become increasingly precious. For one thing, one or the other of them might croak on me! I'm in pretty good shape and I almost never get sick but a couple of my friends don't look so great. Making new friends when you are old is, as they say nowadays, "problematic." Thank God my very best friend, my wife, is fine. I think she will outlive me but she's having none of it. "I don't want to be a widow!" she exclaims.

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Claudia Canavan's avatar

I am so guilty of this, fascinating to read it all unpicked! X

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Annie Scott's avatar

Loved the expert saying he wouldn't give advice despite everyone wanting him to! It drives me mad that solutions sell when it comes to topics like this that we shouldn't be trying to codify! I also think there's an insidious culture of selfishness growing out of the (well-meaning) self-help industry that's making us question any friendship that's not 'perfect'. But of course it's never going to be perfect... because we're human and weird and flawed. Lots of food for thought here, thank you x

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Nikki Osman's avatar

Thanks Annie! And yes, so true! Solutions sell! The word perfect seems to come up so often in these conversations. Think ‘we’re human and weird and flawed’ is the (very wise) answer x

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Charlotte Jackson's avatar

my thought while reading this entire post was 'ma'am are you in my brain?' couldn't resonate with this more. I really love your writing. it's validating and challenging at the same time. thanks for your work!!

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Nikki Osman's avatar

Thank you Charlotte, really appreciate the feedback and so glad to hear it resonates x

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Nikki Osman's avatar

Thanks Claud 🙏

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